73 Points by 25 Years

Inspired by the rising sun and too energized to go to sleep despite the fact that I have been up all night waiting for a miracle thanks to the most bullshitty internet connection in the planet I have decided spend this time to consolidate a list of things I’ve learned during my 25 years of existence.

1. You can never have too many journals. I have about six or seven at hand and they’re all empty. I must find time to write in them soon.

2. Unless you’re extremely upset, no one in the entire customer service industry will help you. Believe me, I’ve worked in the industry for three years and I know what they’re playing at.

3. Loyalty matters.

4. Candy Crush is emotionally damaging, it’ll come to a point where you’d want to break down and just cry.

5. Best friends forever don’t exist. It’ll come to a point that your friendship will end sooner than forever.

6. On that note, you’d also want to know that people will always leave so don’t get too attached. It will hurt like hell.

7. Friends who boss you around and try to manipulate you, aren’t your friends. Get rid of them.

8. No matter how close you are, not even if he is your best friend’s boyfriend, he is still a boy. It’s not going to end well after 2 liters of beer and 5 shots of god-knows-what.

9. You have absolutely no right to feel bad about a client’s complaint, no matter what they say. If you feel bad about it, you have no business working in a company that caters to providing service.

10. You’ll always realize that staying up too late was a bad idea when you have to get up early the next day.

11. If there’s a way to do things online, do it. It’s a hundred times better than standing in line with fifty other people.

12. If you paid for it, you have the right to complain about it. No one can tell you otherwise.

13. It’s never too late to go to school.

14. Natalie Portman is a timeless beauty and Johnny Depp is just amazing.

15. It’s easy to let go, but it’s extremely hard to move on. So don’t beat yourself about it.

16. Do something that makes you happy. Never choose otherwise.

17. It’s perfectly fine to be selfish.

18. Always trust your instincts.

19. It’s okay to be a jerk, given the situation calls for it.

20. Less expectations, less disappointments.

21. Mind your manners. You we’re not raised by a pack of wolves, don’t act like an animal.

22. Never cross boundaries, especially with friendship. You’re allowed a certain level of intervention, don’t go beyond that.

23. Never stop dreaming.

24. Once your friends start talking behind your back, trust me, they’re not worth it.

25. Read. It doesn’t matter if you’re reading a Shakespearean play or the back of the shampoo bottle, read.

26. Be compassionate.

27. Take photos. It pays to keep memories frozen in time.

28. Not everyone can understand your frustrations, don’t expect them to. People who care wouldn’t need an explanation, people who don’t won’t listen to you.

29. Respect people’s choice of faith or lack of faith.

30. When you’re wrong, say you’re sorry.

31. You know you’re getting older when you’d rather choose to eat out with friends rather than spend all night drinking and getting drunk.

32. Take one step at a time. Don’t rush life we’re never getting out of it alive.

33. There are friends that you want to talk to about every single detail of your life, and there are friends you just want to see once in a year. Don’t feel guilty about it, that’s just how life is.

34. Never underestimate the power of your words. A little discouragement can destroy people.

35. Take time to learn something new everyday. Don’t stay stuck, life will bore you out.

36. Never let your boss exploit you. Never. If you’re good at something; get well-paid for doing it.

37. Get some sunshine every now and then. There’s nothing worse than an indoor zombie.

38. Learn from your mistakes, don’t beat yourself about them. We all learn by experience.

39. Be thankful for the people who hate you. They make you a stronger person.

40. People hate you for two things; you’re either better than them or you stood up for something you believed in.

41. Relive your childhood once in a while; color, play, watch cartoons, anything. It keeps you young. It keeps you happy.

42. Less is always more.

43. When asked a question, never answer with an ‘I don’t know.’ It makes you sound stupid.

44. You can’t always have what you want. Acceptance is the key. There’s no point in wallowing in self-pity.

45. There is always better than your best. Strive for improvement.

46. Never give up on trying to be the best at what you do.

47. Don’t step on other people just to get what you want.

48. Break records but be consistent.

49. Chocolate have endorphins. Stock up on happy hormones.

50. Sometimes people just want to be left alone, give them the space that they need.

51. Everyone is broken, all we need is someone to fix us and put us back together.

52. Age doesn’t equate to maturity.

53. It doesn’t matter how tough we are, heartbreaks will always scar us.

54. Actions speak louder than words but actions without words is confusing.

55. Never be late. It’s a very unruly habit.

56. Knowing your limits doesn’t make you any less of a person.

57. People like to say nice things, kiss your ass and sweet talk you but not all those people really mean what they say. Be careful.

58. Friends grow apart. Refer to #6. In light of this, you don’t always have to be the one left behind, you can leave too.

59. It’s always okay to miss those people who leave or you left, it’s also okay to let them know that. But always be reminded of #56.

60. Guard your heart, always.

61. Suicide is never an option. It’s unfair to the people who love you, it’s unfair to those willing to fight for you. Don’t give up on yourself, don’t give up on them, don’t be a selfish prick.

62.People get tired. Try not to be a pain. No matter how patient those people are, they have a limit too.

63. Forgive people who have hurt you. Forgiving means letting go of the reason you got hurt. Accept it and move on.

64. There’s always a first time for everything. Enjoy life.

65. We grow up.

66. The city skyline is breathtaking at night.

67. No matter how old you are, you will always want to have your mom or dad around.

68. As much as you don’t want to admit it, your siblings are probably the best people you will ever have.

69. You can have your cake and eat it too.

70. Everything will be okay.

71. People will disappoint you, it’s just a matter of understanding and accepting this fact.

72. All is well.

73. Happiness is an option. It’s always an option. Choose to be happy.

Keep Calm and Carrie On

I wasn’t really a fan of the Sex in the City series but I absolutely enjoyed the movies. I just loved how sparkly and posh Carrie Bradshaw’s Manhattan life is. Having my own Big Apple dreams I could relate to her love of the city and it’s wonder.

So when the prequel came out I was stoked! I’ve always wanted to know what Carrie’s life was before she became the Carrie Bradshaw. Though I was pretty skeptical at first, thinking that it would be another teen series filled with cliche’s and drama, I was definitely wrong. I loved how versatile all the characters were and I especially loved Donna, the promiscuous mean girl of the high school who just happens to have a soft side for a closeted butterfly. Another thing to love about this series is the soundtrack, after all these odd music with sirens and techno sounds, it’s good to hear beats from the past that was actually part of my childhood, thanks mom.

It’s on it’s 10th episode and I can’t wait to see more!

 

 

Oh Nick Miller

I have always loved Schmidt, I guess I see so much of myself in him that I understand what he’s going through with Cece. Schmidt is my favorite loft guy, but I am definitely looking for my Nick Miller.

Remember the pilot episode where he went out of his way to take care of Jess after she had been stood up by this guy she met at the bar? From that point you just knew that they were meant for each other. Being the humans that they are, they didn’t make this process easy on each other, complication always gets in the way of beautiful love stories. They spent more time arguing about the most futile things. Then the kiss happened, it was all sparks from there.

I’m looking for my Nick Miller; someone who genuinely cares and looks out for me like a brother, someone who argues with me like a best friend and someone who above all can love and understand me for the weird and awkward person that I am.

He may be a pretentious writer, trying to create a zombie story out of the Twilight Saga, he may be a law school drop out mixing drinks in the wee hours of the morning or he may be a frustrated handyman, all I know is that Nick Miller is just perfectly imperfect and he’s the type of guy any girl should be happy to be with.

 

Silver Year

I love birthdays, especially my birthdays. Who doesn’t? Birthdays = Cake, Birthdays = Spaghetti, Birthdays = Party. Birthdays are definitely something to look forward to.

This birthday was quite an odd one though.

It’s was already off to a bad start. I was expecting that my aunt, cousin and little inaanaks would be spending their first day in Manila with me since it’s my first time to see the little girl and it’s my birthday, but there’s this diva who just wanted to ruin everything for me. Ugh. I hate you very much.

But oh well, let’s not dwell on that.

The first person to greet me was:

Solomon

I’ve only met this guy twice. First when he had super long hair and a couple of months ago near my office. He’s one of those online friends I met on Plurk and he’s just awesome! Thanks again for the greet Mon!

The last person to greet me today was:

Khalil

He’s one of my favorite big brothers. One of those non-biological big brothers who has never failed my expectations, and in fact has been quite the inspiration. You see, he’s actually Dr. Khalil Faustino DVM but he’s also a pilot. He definitely followed his dreams and made the most of what he had, and this is why I decided that it’s high-time I went back to school and become the best doctor I can be. Thanks Meow, I miss you! Hope to see you soon.

And the most meaningful message came from:

Aia

“BABES!!!!!!!!!!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I love you! Thank you for the friendship. Ang cliche pakinggan, pero really, thank you! Youre always my kakampi. And and and, sana we could spend more time together. Bat ka kasi south kid. Huuuu! Pero again, ikaw lang ang south kid na mahal ko. Hahaha! Thank you for everything. As in lahat lahat. And thank you for always being there for me, for us Nikk. Im really glad we’re friends. I love you. And please, enjoy your day. Walang sisira ng araw mo kundi ikaw lang, kaya dedmahin mo silang lahat ok? i love you! Happy birthday!”

Aia and I have a lot of friends in common, being friends with each other would be unavoidable. Sad to say that the people who introduced us to each other are no longer part of my life, I’m hell as glad that she is. I love you Aiababes, and you know that. Friends forever and ever!

Now what happened today?

The day was not what I expected it to be. My throat was being a bitch that I couldn’t swallow anything even water. I decided to visit the doctor and they have found a growth of some sort on my throat and said that I’d have to take really strong antibiotics for it, plus an antiseptic rinse every  8 hours. After lunch at my aunt’s place we went to Town to do a little shopping. This was probably the highlight of my day.

And because the MMDA officer is being a jerk and says that that specific area in Alabang happens to be Las Pinas I got told off because of coding. Bitch ass MMDA dude doesn’t know the maps. How can they call it Toyota Alabang and Wilcon Alabang if it’s frakking Las Pinas. I rest my case he just thought about what I said and let me go. ANYWAY, I had to go home at 7PM just to avoid bumping into assholes like him.

I had a pre-scheduled dinner with Phoebe because she’s going somewhere else on my birthday party,  so I was rushing to get home to take a quick shower and get my ass to Pergola. When I got home I was already a bit cranky and my stomach was kinda upset, I went to the bathroom and ended up puking my guts out. When it was all over I stood up, gargled antiseptic and brushed my teeth. After doing so I felt an odd chill, you know that kind of chill you get after you pee? I thought it was just one of those things. I walked to my room and that’s when I felt really really cold that instead of getting clothes for my birthday date with Phoebe I took out PJs and snuggled in my comforter. I thought it would be gone in a minute or so but the chills got worse. My nanny took my temperature and found out I was burning up! I felt so cold that I was starting to seize my aunt got a spoon and had me bite on it just so I don’t bite on my tongue. It was a terrible feeling my vision started to blur and I had no idea how to make it stop. And in between all of this I was able to text Phoebe and my Aunt about what was happening. 

The initial plan was to take me to the ER but I really didn’t want to go, I don’t want to be pricked and prodded. I waited for my relatives to get to my place and they took perfect care of me.

This was definitely a swift brush with death and the first thing on my mind was: How am I going to save lives if I die now? How am I going to make my parents proud of me if I die now? It’ll crush their hearts. With those thoughts in my mind and the fact that my relatives and a really good friend was there for me, definitely gave me the strength I needed to come through. After an hour or so, my fever was down and I stopped shivering. I was able to sit-up again and watch a couple of nutty shows with Phoebe.

First gift for my birthday was from:

Phoebe

We met because of PhotoMNL and became really close because of our proximity. South kids are definitely the best in my book. We think pretty much alike and I love her to bits! She’s one of my kids who never forgets about me or tries to hurt me in any way. I super love you forever kitty kat, thank you for being there for me tonight. 

And of course, a shout-out to my twin:

Yem

You find out who your true friends are in the most trying times. I have definitely found my twin that way. Finding out the truth behind all the lies I  have been living has become really important to me, I’ve decided to talk with her and what do you know, we’re more than just two peas in a pod. I love you Twin, I could lose a lot of people but I’m sure as glad that I have found you. Thanks for being there for me most of the time, thanks for influencing me be it good or bad and most of all, thank you for understanding my entire box of crazy. 

To sum it up, my day wasn’t a bad one. I’ve come to realize a lot of things and I’m grateful for my amazing family, especially my parents and my equally amazing friends for all the love I have.

Happy 25th to me! Wait up for my birthday party blog! It’s going to be one awesome party!

 

A Quote from Chbosky

Your favorite quote from any book – why does it means so much to you?

My favorite quote would have to be from Stephen Chbosky’s Perks of Being a Wallflower; “We accept the love we think we deserve.”

I read this book way back in freshman year of high school I literally felt like Charlie hence the reason why this has been my favorite book of all time. When Bill Anderson says; we accept the love we thing we deserve. The first thing that pops up in my head is the idea of self-worth which can be applicable to everyday life not just in love. As a person we know that we deserve the best of what life has to offer but more often than enough we tend to settle. We see it everyday; good people in abusive relationships, in terrible situations, and so on. In my case I learned to settle for whatever is there, not because our family can’t afford it, not because that is all I knew, but I used to believe that if I didn’t deserve it, I wouldn’t get it. I thought very little of myself despite the over-achieving and abundance of love I had. At the end of the day, we should learn to break free from the idea of not deserving the best and aim for the stars. What we deserve is what we work hard for.

In retrospect we deserve the best anyone can give. With true love, no one settles. With true love, everything is equal. It’s just up to us to find that person who would deserve our love and whose love we deserve in return.

Dark Polkadots on Red

365 days and countless memories. I’m glad I started this blog, it helps me live through what has-been and makes me realize how much things change.

It all started as a book blog and ended up something more meaningful and I’d like to thank my dear, dear friends who have been with me all throughout the ups and downs of this roller coaster ride.

Helios has been the best thing that happened to me in years. Despite the misunderstandings and drama. They’re my family. I love you guys. Hope to see you the soonest.

Sandino + Gesta

Of all the couples I’ve met in my 24 years of existence. Except for my parents that is. I have truly admired Aia and Nikki’s relationship. It’s one for the books I tell you. They’re not the perfect couple per se. They have their shortcomings but at the end of the day it’s the challenges in their relationship that helps them mature as a couple and as individuals.

Being the hopeless romantic that I am, I have always believed in the notion that God had already planned our love stories. If that person was meant to be with you; no matter what happens that person will be with you. Aia and Nikki’s story is somewhat the same. Starting off as friends bickering most of the time and ending up as lovers. It sounds like something out of the movies.

I wasn’t there on day one, but I was present during the height of all the emotions. I’ve seen how hard they’ve worked to keep whatever they had alive despite the miles that have separated them months ago.

Today? Together they paint the perfect picture of happiness and love. Together they worship Him with a whole heart and soul. Together they pass the obstacles life gives them.

It’s their half year anniversary on the second of August and I’m genuinely happy for them. They shall always be my favorite couple.

P.S. Nikki, thank you for taking good care of my friend. No matter how much you bully me, I still love you for her cause you make her happy. Aia, this is just a third of my gift to you two. I love you Babes. 

The Best Friend of the Century

I don’t really remember the first time we met. All I know is that I first met you when this photo was taken:

But this is not the photo you were in, I couldn’t find it. Sorry.

Then right after this school year we became classmates. But you sat way up front, drawing. I hung out with the boys in the back. We were definitely worlds apart.

We didn’t become classmates again till 4th grade. And if my memory serves me right the only thing we were good at then was bullying the boys and throwing water bombs at them with the occasional pebbles. I even recall you making one of our guy classmates cry. You are so mean.

The following year was a different story. We shared a classroom with 15 other kids, you had your clique, I had mine. I didn’t really get along with your best friend then, I made her cry a lot. And being the protector that you are you bullied me. We didn’t get along that’s for sure. The next thing I heard you moved to Riyadh.

Years passed, we got older, got into college and we met a couple of years after that. We did have the occasional catching up sessions on Friendster and Y!M but that was it.

And then that part of my life happened. I don’t want to get into the details I still regret each and every moment. That’s when we became best friends. :)

After all the friendships I’ve been through after all the hurtful things that have happened to me I’m glad you’re my best friend. I don’t say this enough and there’s really no way to put into words how amazing you are but I want to thank you for all that you’ve done for me and for loving me the way you do.

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Taking A Leap

I’ve done a lot of crazy things for love. My best friend can surely attest to that. I’ve commuted all the way from Laguna to Mendiola on a school night with a cake to say I’m sorry. I’ve driven from work to Cavite every single day just to be with that someone. I’ve learned to accept baggage no matter how big and disturbing they are. And the craziest perhaps is that I’ve learned to love with no bounds despite the fact that I’ve already been left behind.

Stupid? Cheesy? We all go through it. So what’s the craziest thing you’ve done for love?

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Day 26: Your Dream Wedding

This may come as a surprise to most, but I have this part of  my life all planned out. No I do not have a groom-to-be yet nor do I have anyone special in mind when I was planning this out.

The Theme

Unlike most girly weddings I’m staying away from the peaches, pinks and reds. My theme would have a blue or teal palette. Everything from the flowers, to the cake to the table cloth.

I’m not a big fan of church weddings, though my family is a 100% hardcore catholic I’d prefer to have my wedding in a garden of some sort. And just to please the folks a priest would be conducting the ceremony. Everything else would be simple.

The Cake

No I’m not going for the traditional white cake. I want this:

The moment I saw this cake on Pinterest I knew I had to have it. But I’m saying no to fondant. It must be in cream cheese frosting. The cake itself would either be a Lemon Poppy cake or a Tahitian Vanilla cake. The design would be similar but instead of white patterns a darker shade of blue would be in order.

The Dress

So lets say with all my efforts to lose weight I do shed off these extra pounds. I would want to wear something like this:

It’s flowy and highly suitable for a garden wedding. No I do not want a ball gown. I want it to be designed by my best friend. The woman behind DKNSTRKT; Loraine who will also be one of my bridesmaids. I’d want it to show my back, coz by then I’ll have an awesome back piece that I’d want to show off. The fabric would be a mix of lace and satin, nothing too cheesy of course we’re going to steer away from the rhinestones and sequins.

I am not a fan of heels nor do I imagine myself in a pair of pumps on my wedding day. I would want to feel comfortable than be in something that would make me go through hell and back so I’ll be flats. Haven’t decide what sort of flats though, I’ll probably cross the bridge when I get there.

The Reception

I have always had a fascination for stars. Ergo a starry themed reception would best suit my wedding.

Of course we’d be sticking to the blue palette on this. So that includes the table settings. Less flowers, more candles in deep-set jars. I can’t find a photo of how I want it to look exactly but the ceiling on this photo is definitely what I want.

Each table would have a notebook and pens. Guests will be encouraged to share their thoughts and best wishes on them. Nothing too shabby, a 10 page notebook would work.

The Souvenirs

A jar with blue potpourri with a polaroid photo of the groom and I. Since this is a DIY souvenir I would require the assistance of my dear friends. Ahem. 

The Wedding Song

I’m still deciding on this. Now this is for the first dance. My entry song will be Canon in D played by a string quartet.

Bless The Broken Road

With A Smile

When You Say Nothing At All

I Do

This I Promise You

The Gift

I Cant Help Falling In Love With You

The Entourage

Being the deviant that I am, my entourage would be a little different. Note: This list may be revised over the years. Depending on the turn of events.

The Maid of Honor: This role goes to my best-est best friend Monica. She’s also going to be my wedding planner so it fits in perfectly well.

The Bridesmaids: In no particular order

Emily Dividina, Loraine Razon, Abbey Kiritharan, Ann Kiritharan, Mish Cortez, Aia Solis, Len David, Anri Iga, Zab Trinidad, Nina Quitiquit, Sumee Yeong and Aina Rosales.

Dear future groom, if you don’t have any friends, I’ll be more than happy to lend you my wonderful guy friends. I have a lot of them everywhere and I know they’ll love me forever.

The flower girls:

I’m pretty sure my friends would have kids by then so the prettiest little girl gets to be the flower girl.

The ring bearer: 

I’ll let my groom decide on this. I’m sure he’ll have someone in mind.

 The Photographer

As I’ve mentioned in my previous posts, I truly believe that this friend of mine would make it up to the top in the wedding photography scene, and I definitely want him to be the photographer of my wedding. Ninong Luis Macalinao. I’m booking you as early as now!

You guys should see his work. Amazing. His work is the epitome of photography meeting art.

I guess we can stop there, that’s sort of it anyway. Materialistically speaking that is. Any wedding would be a dream as long as I have my loved ones and the man who promises to love me for longer than forever with me.